In a world with a smartphone seemingly in the hands of every child, teens and tweens are feeling even more isolated and alone. With their preferred communication being text, teens and tweens don’t socialize as much face-to-face, hence causing increased mental health issues at even younger ages. Now more than ever, it is beneficial to have in-person interfaces and candid conversations with teens. What’s the best anecdote to re-establish a bond with your teen and initiate social connections but family time? 

As much as your teen may balk at the thought of going over to grandma’s house or going on a family vacation with limited Internet service, spending time with family and those who care for their well-being creates familial bonds that have tangible benefits for them. Some advantages of family time are increased happiness and satisfaction since encouragement from extended family can give them the motivation to be the best version of themselves. Intergenerational get togethers build social skills and reinforce family beliefs and values. Consequently, confidence grows with the knowledge that they are being listened to, valued, and appreciated.

The cost of family time is nominal compared to the repercussions of not having face-to-face time with your teen. Teens who are integrated into family life are more likely to do better in school since they are likely to be asked about their school life, which can reinforce the belief that their education is important, and they feel loved and supported. Teens who engage in activities with their families are less likely to have behavioral problems since they feel more comfortable bringing problems to their parents and are more receptive to advice to make positive choices. 

Family does not need to be blood related. In-person time spent with friends that are close as family, or “framily,” can sometimes be the best medicine for that “I’m lonely” or “I’m bored” teen attitude. Face-to-face get-togethers give teens a sense of camaraderie with their peers, as well as support during the best or worst of times.  

So, plan that family game night or family vacation and get your teen off their devices and talking face-to-face. Spending quality time, creating family memories and being present in your teen’s life doesn’t financially cost anything but you will feel so rewarded when they rest their head on your shoulder knowing they are most comfortable with you. The days are long, but the years are short and, before you know it, your teen will be out on their own, but the family values you’ve instilled in them will stay with them forever.