In a world with a smartphone seemingly in the hands of every
child, teens and tweens are feeling even more isolated and alone. With their
preferred communication being text, teens and tweens don’t socialize as much
face-to-face, hence causing increased mental health issues at even younger
ages. Now more than ever, it is beneficial to have in-person interfaces and
candid conversations with teens. What’s the best anecdote to re-establish a
bond with your teen and initiate social connections but family time?
As much as your teen may balk at the thought of going over
to grandma’s house or going on a family vacation with limited Internet service,
spending time with family and those who care for their well-being creates
familial bonds that have tangible benefits for them. Some advantages of family
time are increased happiness and satisfaction since encouragement from extended
family can give them the motivation to be the best version of themselves.
Intergenerational get togethers build social skills and reinforce family
beliefs and values. Consequently, confidence grows with the knowledge that they
are being listened to, valued, and appreciated.
The cost of family time is nominal compared to the repercussions
of not having face-to-face time with your teen. Teens who are integrated into
family life are more likely to do better in school since they are likely to be
asked about their school life, which can reinforce the belief that their
education is important, and they feel loved and supported. Teens who engage in
activities with their families are less likely to have behavioral problems
since they feel more comfortable bringing problems to their parents and are
more receptive to advice to make positive choices.
Family does not need to be blood related. In-person time
spent with friends that are close as family, or “framily,” can sometimes be the
best medicine for that “I’m lonely” or “I’m bored” teen attitude. Face-to-face
get-togethers give teens a sense of camaraderie with their peers, as well as support
during the best or worst of times.
So, plan that family game night or family vacation and get
your teen off their devices and talking face-to-face. Spending quality time,
creating family memories and being present in your teen’s life doesn’t
financially cost anything but you will feel so rewarded when they rest their
head on your shoulder knowing they are most comfortable with you. The days are
long, but the years are short and, before you know it, your teen will be out on
their own, but the family values you’ve instilled in them will stay with them
forever.
