So I thought that I would start something new this week. You know, new year, new you ... or just a new piece in this blogging puzzle. I get asked a lot of questions, so I thought that I would start writing a few posts here and there that answer the most frequently asked questions. Have a question? Ask away! Just make sure I have had my coffee first ... or you might not like the answer.
The most frequently asked question is "Why are you always dressed up? Do you work?" While this a valid question, I would be lying if I said it's one that doesn't bother me. It bothers me. But I guess that's what the best questions do, in a way - they cut right to it, am I right? Nevertheless, I will answer.
Why do I always look dressed up? It is my belief, that in order for me to be able to face the day and to put my best foot forward, I must be dressed and ready to do so. I shower in the evening. Every morning I get up before my kids, I get dressed, I put makeup on and do my hair. This little bit of time that I set aside for myself, is necessary to my mental health. That might sound crazy, but I can't function without feeling like I look my best. No, I never leave the house in my pajamas...I don't leave the house without at least a little bit of makeup on. Maybe it stems from my childhood. I remember my mom being the same way, she would always be dressed and ready for the day no matter what we were doing. It makes me feel like "super mom"... I can do anything!
I know that, as a parent, we usually put ourselves last. The kicker of it is, that when we actually put ourselves first, the guilt takes over. However, I have come to terms with the fact that I can't always come last. To be the best mom that I can be, I have to start the day feeling my best. It's just the way that I am. I also must have time in the evenings, after my kids are in bed, to do my workout. It's my stress relief for the day. Saving time for me, is best for everyone.
LOL...that should also say..."and put on a cute outfit". So, how do I manage being "dressed up" all the time? I plan my outfits ahead of time. Currently, I have two weeks worth of outfits hanging in my closet. I used to label them for each day, but I gave up doing that. Now I just look through them, and pick one to wear. This allows me to have an easier time getting ready, and it also helps me diversify what I wear. Wearing jeans every day is boring to me, so I try to vary my outfits between jeans, dresses, and skirts. Gotta keep 'em guessing. Plus it makes me happy to try different combinations.
And then there's the reason why this question bothers me. The question implies that for a woman to be dressed and ready for the day she must be going to work. Why though? At what point did looking our best become a product of working? I look my best for me. Plain and simple.