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Lorraine is a style obsessed mama to two young kids, a wife to a supportive husband and a family photographer. Lorraine graduated from Rochester Institute of Technology in 2006, with a degree in advertising photography. She enjoys quiet moments, silly kids, clothes, shoes, coffee and a little wine too. Can't get enough of her here on FredParent? Check out her personal blog: Rain in Style.

 

Rain in Style

Laugh With Me...Or At Me.

Hi again! I have a special treat this week for you. It's time for some laughs. I get asked a lot about how my photos, most are on Instagram, always look so good. Well, here's the thing...they DON'T. I mean, I can guarantee you, that I will be looking a fool, yelling at my kids, or adjusting something and being extremely awkward about it during every shoot. I know, "pictures or it didn't happen" right? So, to prove it, I thought I would share with you all some of the outtakes that show me doing just that... being a normal human. I mean why not, right? I love to laugh at myself, so please join in and laugh along. 

 

Let's start with my angry knee... I know y'all have seen it, how can you miss it?? I have an angry face on my knee. It just showed up one day and hasn't left. I guess it's my new angry friend...or like one of those good/bad angels on your shoulder...except this one is an angry one on my knee.

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And how about when my kids are around... and they imitate me.  Totally natural and not prompted.  These two make shoots interesting.  

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Then there's the times when I just make weird faces, becuase I see a bug, or my hands touch something gross...

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And there are the times when I have wardrobe malfunctions, or I just get mad at a piece of clothing and get rid of it...

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Or like these, where I don't even know what my issue is, but whatever predictment I might be in, it's obviously hilarious.

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 These are especially funny, because of my facial expressions... I mean I can't fake this stuff. It's comedic gold.

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While all of these are pretty funny, and I love to laugh at them, this one is probably my favorite, simply because this is me being me. I am pretty weird, I make goofy faces all the time...sometimes I just up and dance for no reason at all. I figure It's better that the world see me being my own special brand of weird than not see me at all. My motto: less embarrassed, more authentic.

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 -xo

 

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White Jeans Done Right

Hey everyone! Welcome back. This week I thought that I'd talk a little about my arch nemesis...The White Denim. What? It totally sounds like an evil villain name...The White Denim strikes again. Think about it...perfect comic book title. Ok but for reals, let's talk about some styling ideas for white jeans and also one big thing to look out for.

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Y'all know me, you know I will discuss the realness of a situation. And there are plenty of real concerns when talking about white denim. Ladies, it cannot under any circumstance be see through.  The material needs to be thick enough that you can't see through it. I don't know about you but, I love my underwear...and yet I don't want the entire public to see it. Keep it classy! Look for a skinny jean cut, even better if it's mid-high rise. The ones that I have are distressed and are by JBrand, my favorite brand. Find JBrand here.  I have also hear some good things about American Eagle, J Crew, and Loft. I do love American Eagle jean shorts; I think I just might have to go and try their jeans on too, white or otherwise. Helloooooo shopping.

 

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Ok so maybe wearing my white jeans to a farm, wasn't the best idea... good thing I had this jacket with me so I could put it down before I sat. White jeans have a tendency to strike fear into the hearts of many when faced with the need to sit down while outside. But, regardless, I survived and so did the jeans. By the way, my jacket is H&M, graphic tee and shoes are from Zulilly. My bag is Betsey Johnson from ThredUP.

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 So, what do you wear with white jeans? Pretty much anything. Here are a few outfit ideas. Go bold and contrasty in black and white, bonus points if you add a pop of color in your shoes or bag choice. Pink hair optional :) The white graphic tee is from Zulilly, Jacket is Blank NYC, shoes are from ThredUP.  

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Try your white denim with a chambray top and neutral shoes. I'm wearing leopard heels here, because of course, but you could swap them for wedges, sandals or booties. My top is Buffalo by David Bitton, and I found it on ThredUP.  Vince Camuto heels from ThredUP. 

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Go tropical with it. Something about white denim makes me think tropical...I have no idea why. Try putting a floral top with them. The top on the left is Dalia and I found it at T.J.Maxx, shoes are Sam Edelman from DSW.  The top on the right is by my favorite Yumi Kim; it is second hand from ThredUP, shoes are Jessica Simpson from DSW.  

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OR go the opposite direction and try them with an animal print top. It's always good to keep 'em guessing...will she be tropical today or edgy or girly?? LOL. You never really know, do you? This jacket is Romeo and Juliet from TJMaxx and my top is  Violet and Claire from ThredUP.  Shoes are Sam Edelman from ThredUP.  

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Whichever way you choose to style them, don't forget to have fun and be confident. Like a narwhal..aka sea unicorn. There's nothing more confident than a narwhal. This hilarious top is from Zulilly, be sure to check there often, they have some amusing graphic tees. Shoes are Lucky Brand; these are probably the most comfortable wedges that I own...so of course I have them in black polka dots too. LOL.

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 -xo

 

 

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The Mom Style Rut

4 Ways to Refresh Your Wardrobe

April showers bring May flowers...and May brings us Mother’s Day. It’s fitting. As moms, we make sure all of our flowers are taken care of, we give them the strength to grow and relish in their beauty. Sometimes though, it’s mom who needs a little boost. Getting ourselves out of the mom style rut - or even getting away from the “mom comes last” mentality - is a hurdle we’ve all either gone through or are currently in. It’s time, though, to kick that mama guilt to the curb. Break out of the style rut and into a new and stylish you. But how?

Let’s start with these four easy steps to up your style game.

First, plan your outfits ahead of time.

I have a few weeks of outfits hanging in my closet. It makes it easier in the morning since I get dressed before having coffee. It also helps with variety. Often we get stuck in a jeans and t-shirt rut. Toss a dress or a skirt in the rotation to keep them guessing.

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Add layers to your outfits.

Throw a jacket on over your dress, or with your leggings and a tunic. Athleisure is big right now, and if you love your leggings and a top, great! Try adding an anorak style jacket or a jean jacket to look easily pulled together and chic.

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Get some fabulous accessories.

Yes, babies grab at necklaces, hair and pretty much everything. If that’s where you are, try earrings and a bracelet. Accessories can turn a blah outfit into something awesome and Pinterest-worthy! Look for bags with some sassiness and jewelry with a wow factor. I love Nickel and Suede’s earrings. I also love statement necklaces (just don’t wear big earrings with a statement necklace). You can easily jazz up your t-shirt and jeans with big earrings, a statement necklace or an eye-catching clutch.

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Vary your shoes.

Flip-flops and sneakers are comfortable, but try a cute pair of booties, wedges, or strappy sandals. You might find they inspire you to break free. I might be biased, I mean I am a shoe lover, but they do have a way of making or breaking your outfit.

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If these four things don’t work to break your style rut, then why not try a subscription box service. I have been doing Stitch Fix for a few years now. They are a great way to try pieces that you wouldn’t think to pull for yourself. It’s convenient too. You can try everything on at home! No worries about having screaming kids in the dressing room with you. Check out their website!

Bonus: Remember to keep second-hand stores in mind when shopping. Not only are they a great way to revamp your wardrobe while keeping a savvy eye on spending, but they also offer a less expensive way to try different styles. Trying on clothing that might not seem like “you” could prove to be your inspiration to break free. So, what do you say? Let’s go shopping.

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Mom Time...Treat Yo Self

Mother's Day is coming up....not my favorite holiday, I admit. I've said it before, and I will say it again... I love being a mom, but that usually means I am still a mom doing all the normal mom things, even on Mother's Day. I did buy myself some pretty awesome gifts though. LOL. So there's that.  

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My style column in the May issue of Fredericksburg Parent talks about how to get out of your mom style rut. But I thought maybe here I would talk about reinvesting in ourselves as women, and not just as moms. Taking time for yourself, to feel like you belong to you. It's important to know that we have an identity and a purpose other than mom. So, grab a coffee...or wine (I won't judge) and let's chat.

 

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Really give it some thought - do you feel like you define yourself differently after becoming a mom? Do you find that being a mom has replaced or overtaken being a woman? Are there times when you simultaineously love being a mom but also kind of hate it? Ever wish you could regain that sense of individuality you once had? It's tough, because I know we all want to do our very best for our kids. But what if I told you putting some time into ourselves won't do irreversable damage to our kids...it's actually the opposite.

 

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For me, reinvesting in myself meant taking time every day to feel my best. I get up and get dressed and I make absolutely sure that there is time set aside every day to get my workout in. No excuses. Often this means that I am up at 5:45 every morning, before my kids wake up, getting dressed and making myself feel presentable (hello, magic concealer and mascara). It also means that I am doing my workouts after they are in bed at night, usually around 7:30pm. For now, this works for me. As they get older, and their sleep schedules change, my times might change as well. Although, there is value in your kids seeing you workout...mine sometimes join in if I am doing it earlier.  

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Are there activities or hobbies that you once loved but now can't seem to find the time for? Do you find that you put yourself last more often then maybe you should? Yes, you are a mom, and, yes we have responsibilities, but I'd like to encourage you to make yourself a priority. Want to start reading again? Set some time aside for it. Want to start working out again? Make as hard of a commitment to your own health as you do for your kids. It's necessary.  

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Even if all you want to do is shower everyday...do it. Take it a step further and put on a cute outfit and go show the world how amazing you are. I strongly believe that kids need to see us moms as more than just their moms. They need to see us as our own person, as a woman taking on the world. To me, that's a decent life lesson.  

 

-xo 

 

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Date Night Ready

Here at the Serbinski household, date nights are a must. We are lucky in that my in-laws live close by and they are able to watch our kids overnight! Once a month or so, we make plans for the kids to go to their grandparents' house so that my husband and I can enjoy some time alone. It works out well because our kids love being there...who wouldn't when you get cookies and ice cream for breakfast?!?! In taking this time apart, we are purposefully showing both our kids, and ourselves, that mommy and daddy have lives separate from them, and that we need to honor the time to reconnect. We existed before them, and we will remain even when they are grown. It's important not to forget that. 

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But what do we do with our time? I admit that Fredericksburg isn't exactly a night life hot spot. But then again, who needs late night activities when you are usually in bed by 9pm... am I right? We are lucky enough to have some pretty cool friends; sometimes we go out on couple dates. Like this past fall, we went out to the Cider Festival that was at the agricultural fair grounds. If you've never been, I highly recommend it. We got discounted tickets on Groupon, and it was a lot of fun. You get to taste pretty much every cider known to man... yes I mean hard ciders, you know, the good kind. They had bands playing..they even had cider doughnuts. I mean really?!?!

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We also LOVE comedy shows. I love laughing. Sometimes I laugh so hard I can't breathe. My son does this too, and then I laugh at him because he is laughing so hard. And then we both can't breathe. We have been to the Funny Bone in RIchmond to see Trey Crowder and the WellRED tour. Amazing. We also saw Trevor Noah in Baltimore, also amazing. Later this year, we are catching the WellRED tour agin, but this time in D.C.  

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Recently though, we went to my friend's comedy show which was held at Strangeways Brewery, here in Fredericksburg. It was a lot of fun, and very funny. Four comedians at a decent price with ample beer...#winning. Keep your eye out for future shows put on by him, Zoom Comedy. I mean really, who doesn't love to laugh? I don't know about you, but laughing until I can't breathe is one of my favorite pastimes. And it's a great date night...it puts everyone in a light hearted, fun mood. So long as you are able to catch your breath after laughing so hard and no one has to do CPR to bring you back. ;) 

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Let's not forget about the bars and restaurants downtown. We also frequent those. My husband likes happy hours...ok, so do I. We usually try to hit up a bar that has a good happy hour. Usually that means Castigilia's...they also have a great rooftop bar now, so we will be up there often. Captial Ale house is also a favorite. They have the best beer selection, hands down. I've become fond of darker beers...which I used to despise. But when you have practically the entire world of beers at your fingertips, it's easy to find one you like. As a side note, this is our favorite people watching spot. Don't ask me why, it's just good people watching. Next year, go there on St. Patricks Day. It is SO MUCH FUN, complete with bag pipes and guys in kilts.  

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What are some of your favorite things to do for date nights? Movies? Bowling? Bars? All of the above??

 

-xo 

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